Wedding Planning Resources


Weddings can be very stressful and bring out the best and worst in all of us. We are left balancing complex issues of: friends, dreams, teamwork, money, loyalties, jealousies, new in-law relations and endless practical decisions—all played out in front of your whole community of family and friends!

No one gets through this without times of frustration, confusion, and sometimes anger. This book is an essential guide to handling the stress, avoiding the common pitfalls, having a great wedding, and launching a successful marriage.


Take Back Your Wedding is the most sensible, compassionate and helpful guide for engaged couples available. I am giving a copy to all the couples I see for premarital counseling.

— Jean Fitzpatrick, L.P., New York City individual and couples therapist

“I just wanted to tell you that I consider your book a ‘must read’ for anyone planning a wedding. It is loaded with invaluable advice and I recommend it to all of my brides and grooms.”  Maria Brady Professional Bridal Consultant 

“Take Back Your Wedding has all the elements of an excellent inspirational tool. It will prove invaluable to me in guiding brides toward the path of wedding bliss. What a needed resource in an industry (tragically) more focused on beautiful centerpieces than effective communication. Thank you!”

Samantha J. Allen Lead Wedding Consultant

“I loved your book! There are so many brides who get overwhelmed with the planning & dealing with family issues. Many times, brides are embarrassed to ask some questions. It has been a welcomed comfort to the brides who I have given it to. We look forward to new publications from you.

Kelly L. Moore, President Ambiance Event & Floral Design


The Premarital Counseling Workbook for Couples

The Premarital Counseling Workbook for Couples is the first in my series of Therapy-At-Home Workbooks® providing a cost effective, do-it-yourself, therapist-guided alternative to premarital counseling.  As a couples therapist I know that many embark upon marriage without having a basic relationship skills set.  I encourage you to strengthen your relationship foundation BEFORE you tie the knot – to pack your toolbox for the inherent ups and downs of life.

My workbook will help you and your partner do the following:

  • Strengthen your communication skills.  I will help you tune up your talking and listening skills, one of the most important aspects of a healthy, strong relationship.
  • Increase your emotional safety.  An assessment and exploration of your respect, trust, understanding, validation and empathy for each other.
  • Explore your relationship balance.  A look at the “you, me and we” of your dynamic and whether it is satisfying to both of you.  If not, how might it be shifted for the benefit of the marriage?
  • Identify problematic family of origin issues.  If one or both of you are carrying emotional wounds from the past, it’s important to identify them and their impact.  Ideally couples understand and are sensitive to their partner’s soft spots.
  • Explore your marriage logistics and roles:  Are you both satisfied with the way your marriage works and “who” does “what?”  Get on the same page to avoid potential unmet expectations and frustration.
  • Develop your personal, couple and family goals; create a marriage vision:  Create an idea of how you see your future together.  You will be a team and ideally work together collaboratively.

The Premarital Counseling Workbook for Couples provides a framework for you to strengthen the relationship foundation that will support your marriage.  Its’ interactive format with worksheets and a space for journaling makes it a great keepsake for you and your spouse.  It’s 67  pages will give you an understanding of the basic principles of happy, healthy and connected marriages.

Therapy-At-Home Workbooks®: The Premarital Counseling Workbook for Couples FAQS

  • The workbook is an e-book, delivered in downloadable, PDF format.
  • The price for the workbook is $20.00.
  • You can order the workbook securely via PayPal.  Immediately after completing the transaction you will receive a link to download the workbook so if you don’t receive it, check your spam folder for mail from (the digital products company I use).
  • The item on your PayPal billing statement will read “Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT.”
  • There is a no refund policy.
  • Though this premarital workbook is a counseling alternative, it is not a replacement.  See a local couples therapist if personal guidance by a trained professional is indicated.