Below is a list of the inner thoughts and emotions that drive someone to go online
and seek ideas, answers, or new perspectives.
1. “My partner/parent/kid has all the problems; help me in my suffering”
2. I’m the problem, and I don’t know how to get unstuck relationally
3. If only (person in my life) would “work on their stuff,” I’d be better off
4. Help with conflict avoidance (me/the other person)
5. Help with hot conflict (mine/others)
6. I’m now enlightened, but (person) won’t listen to me
7. I (or the other person) is so hurt, blocking any healing
8. “I deserve more, right?”
9. Guilt is bogging me/that person down